Friday, February 27, 2009

Letting Love Flow

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Recently I had an experience where I was in the middle of a “love fest” where everyone around me was just so positive and happy except for me. At the time I was sitting there wanting to participate in all the love and happiness going around, and I just couldn’t. Afterward I really thought about what had happened, and I realized that that circumstance had brought up feelings from my past where I hadn’t felt supported for who I really was, where people made it abundantly clear that it wasn’t okay to be myself, to do what I wanted to do. It helped me recall circumstances where I wanted love from a particular person and that person in that moment for whatever reason was not able to give me the love that I craved in the way that I wanted it.

As I remembered those moments from my past, I realized that a couple of things were going on. In those moments, I decided that I was going to lower my expectations for love, that I would try to change who I really was and what I really wanted to do to see if I could get more love the next time around from those people. In essence, I allowed a barrier to form over my heart to protect myself from getting hurt in the future. And I did this again and again as I accepted each insult as a reflection of my worth. These deposits accumulated upon my heart like so much mud and dirt, forming layers like stone over a period of years. As I remembered this process that I had allowed to happen, I realized that I chose to assume that this was my only way to seek happiness.

I also remembered that all around me in each and every one of those moments was an infinite field of Love that was always available and ready to give me the sense of love and belonging I so desired. But in the narrowness or specificity of my desire for love from particular people at particular times, this vast ocean of Love was as if it did not exist. So I was a person who was rich but believed I was poor. I had all of the food I could want, and yet want hungry. I felt thirsty even though there was wonderful freshwater raining down upon me all of the time.

I am so thankful that I have realized that I do live in a vast sea of Love, always ready and willing to do its thing whenever I let it in. How do I know this? For over a decade, whenever I have truly desired that this love would come into my life, it has. I have never been disappointed when I have asked. Never. It has always come, and I have felt its coming, sometimes like a wave and sometimes like a flame, but always it has come to me.

May we all become people who let Love in and allow it to have its way with us. May we let Love flow, dissolving and carrying away that which is dead, hard, and dry. As it does this work, it also gives us and all we touch new life. When you let this Power of Love flow, the walls will come down, and there will eventually be nothing to stop you from giving and receiving love just as the skies, the rivers, and the seas share the water that makes life on earth possible.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Limitless Possibilities

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I have been thinking a lot lately about the fact that the possibilities for our lives and for the world are truly limitless. What we see as limitations are actually perceptions related to our current level of development as human beings. As we allow the Power of God to have an ever-greater say in who we are and what we do, these limitations are progressively revealed as only what we have believed to be true, not fixed facts of our existence. Just because a whole bunch of people share perceptions of particular limitations, does not make those perceptions permanent. When anyone at anytime no longer experiences a limitation as real, it has been proven to be a temporary human creation, and not an immutable fact.

May we become people open to the possibility that our perceived limitations may not be real. As we open ourselves to the Creator’s Power of Love, may we experience ever-widening horizons of possibilities. And eventually words like “can’t” and “impossible” will become fragile artifacts of a long-dead age.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Windows and Doors

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People say that the eyes are a window into the soul. I think that is true. It is likely that most of us have had moments in our lives when we have looked into another’s eyes and felt that we really knew what someone else was feeling and thinking.

How we look determines what we see and what we don’t see. For example, when we are angry, our perceptions are filtered through that emotion and its associated thoughts. Some things stand out in our perceptions when we perceive through the filter of anger and other things either disappear completely or become nearly imperceptible. Our thoughts and our feelings, our beliefs and our intentions are filters over our ability to perceive things as they really are. One of the quests of my life has been to perceive things as they really are. What I have discovered is that the key to working through the project of clearing my perceptions has been who and what I have allowed to come through my soul’s doorway.

If our eyes are windows, then our hearts are the doorways to our souls. If we want our windows to be as clean and clear as possible, we need to open the door to God and the Power of God’s Divine Love. To the extent that we allow God and God’s Love into our souls through the doorways of our hearts, to that extent will our lives be transformed.

While my main focus here is windows and doors, the truth is that as we allow God to love us through the doorway of the heart, our entire spiritual house is remodeled. If we let the Great Architect of Goodness into the realm of our spiritual selves, unnecessary walls and doors will be gently removed. Windows, flooring, fixtures, plumbing, electrical work, the roof, the exterior, the landscaping, everything will eventually be made like new if not totally replaced. You will still be you, but you will be your best self living fully according to the Power of God. And it will be obvious to you and to everyone that you are different in a good way. While the eyes are windows into the soul, ours hearts are the doorways for Love. This Valentine’s Day, let Love in and enjoy the process of your very own Extreme Makeover.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Listening

Posted by Bill Frase-

Listening is one of the most important skills to develop when it comes to the quality of our lives. This is because the quality of our lives depends upon the quality of our relationships. And the quality of our relationships is a direct function of how well we listen. How well are we listening to other people? To our bodies? To God? To our hearts? To the circumstances of our lives? To the signs and symbols that are everywhere for the interpreting in our waking and in our dreaming?

Listening does not mean judging. It is not about winning. Listening is not about being right or coming up with great answers or witty replies. It is not about control, domination, fear, or haste. It is not about projecting our perspective onto someone else. Listening is a humble act where we do not assume to know or understand. It is an act where we allow the “other” (or our own heart) to speak to us so that we may experience greater harmony. It is the key to giving what is needed rather than what we think is required. It is a true act of generosity because we are giving our full time and attention.

True listening requires an open heart. To the extent that our hearts are open, we are capable of really listening. And when we really listen, love flows for the enjoyment of all.

May we create time and space in our lives to really listen, not allowing ourselves to be satisfied with superficialities.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

When things aren’t going so well

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I’m going to do a little more personal disclosure that I am accustomed to in this post. Recently I wrote about the Mirror of Experience. Well, I’m having some experiences right now that are interesting, not in and of themselves, but because of their cumulative nature:

Right now I am dealing with the following issues:

-Many challenges related to meeting revenue goals
-Needing to buy a new washing machine because the bearing on the old one wore out
-Needing to have a vehicle repaired
-I’ve got this really nasty cold/sinus infection thing
-I saw my chiropractor yesterday, and I normally feel better after seeing him. But now I’ve got this huge muscle spasm in my neck that I haven’t had before and it’s really bugging me.

Whenever I have this kind of confluence of not-so-pleasant circumstances, I know that I am creating a wonderful opportunity to receive more Love and experience more forgiveness. Don’t get me wrong. My attitude really stinks right now, and I am not at all pleased with these circumstances, but there are a few things that I know based on my many experienced with these kinds of situations:

My biggest breakthroughs usually occur as a result of my biggest challenges.

The greatest healing usually comes only when things get really, really bad because it’s only at that point that I am open to the help I need.

Every circumstance is temporary. It will eventually pass.

Patience is a wonderful personal quality to practice at times like these.

One challenge right now is to not give in to despair and hopelessness. No matter how convoluted the mess, it will all be straightened out eventually.

I also must challenge myself not to get down on myself and think that I’m a terrible person for having attracted such a perfect storm of not-so-lovely circumstances.

Even now I have the ability to enjoy wonderful blessings such as my son’s wonderful questions or comments and the love and support of my wife, family, friends and coworkers. I’m also doing my best to be open to the little miracles and victories that happen whenever I am open to perceiving them.

No matter how bad things appear, please, please, please(!) remember that it is all temporary. Nothing you can perceive with your natural senses or imagination is permanent. Less than favorable circumstances are a reflection of the dramas going on within our spiritual selves. When we let more Love into our lives, we are changed. When we change, we intend, feel, think, and act differently. When this happens everything around us transforms to match the person we have become.

Let’s be kind to ourselves. Life has enough challenges without us beating ourselves up over things (well, everything actually…) that will work out in the end.